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A Call to Protect, Listen, and Intervene if Necessary
(Full disclaimer: I do not know how this man conducts his classroom. I have concerns that the entire Western world is failing our children mightily. We continue to place the desires of adults above the needs of children.)
This inspires me to talk about how we have been moving further away from centering the health and well-being needs of children in classrooms.
Some children grow up carrying a memory they can barely name.
A room.
A tension.
A command — spoken or unspoken — to sit still while an adult engages in sexualized behavior nearby.
To the outside world, this may sound unthinkable.
But for far too many children, this is a lived reality. And it is sexual abuse.
Not “inappropriate.”
Not “grown folks business.”
Not “they didn’t understand.”
It is abuse that forces a child’s body into obedience and silence while their spirit tries to flee.
What This Harm Really Is
Sexual abuse in plain terms
When an adult performs a sexual act or behaves provocatively where a child can see or hear it, that child is being violated — even if the adult never touches them.
Exhibitionistic abuse
Forcing or allowing a child to witness sexual acts or behavior is a form of exhibitionism directed at a minor.
Stillness as coercive control
Too many children describe being trained to:
stay quiet
stay calm
not react
“keep their eyes forward”
pretend nothing is happening
That pressured or adult guided composure is not maturity — it is survival.
A child cannot run.
Cannot protest.
Cannot escape.
If they do, that’s where we as a society will do what we too often do to children who question and resist.
- We call them “angry”.
- We accuse them of being a “problem”
- We allege that they have an “attitude.”
- We diagnose them with something
All because they had questions or concerns.
All because they noticed that the respect may not have been going both ways.
Why This Silence Wounds So Deeply
Children placed in these situations often grow up with:
A split or disconnect between their body and their feelings
A belief that their comfort isn’t important
A learned expectation to tolerate discomfort to keep the peace
Shame they cannot explain
Difficulty speaking up when something feels wrong
This is not a small event.
It is a rupture — one that can shape boundaries, relationships, and self-protection for years.
What Safe Adults Must Understand
Children who endure this kind of harm are not “resilient.”
They are coping in the only way available to them.
They don’t tell because:
they were never allowed to react
they were told, persuaded, or expected to be quiet
they were taught that adults decide what is “normal”
they feared punishment, disbelief, or escalation
Their silence is not consent —
it is captivity.
Our Responsibility as Safe Adults
RosasChildren exists for moments like these — when the truth is hard to say, yet essential to confront.
We have a duty to:
1. Call this behavior what it is: sexual abuse
There is no softer term that fits.
2. Believe children without demanding perfect words
Children rarely describe these situations in adult language.
Believe the feeling behind their story.
3. Teach children that their confusion is valid
They were not meant to make sense of adult sexual acts.
4. Protect children’s right to react
Tears, fear, anger, discomfort — all of it is healthy and human.
5. Intervene immediately when an adult sexualizes their presence
No excuses.
No minimizing.
No “that’s not what they meant.”
6. Educate other adults with courage and clarity
This is not just an issue of morality.
It is safety.
It is dignity.
It is the right of every child to have a childhood unpolluted by adult sexuality.
For the Child Who Survived This
If you were that child…
You were not imagining it.
You were not responsible for it.
You were not complicit.
You were not “being mature.”
You were surviving.
Your silence was a shield — never a signal of agreement.
Your body protected you the only way it could.
Your voice deserved protection.
And your story deserves to be heard without shame.
A Final Word From RosasChildren
Children need safe adults who show up with clarity, courage, and tenderness.
Adults who can say:
“What happened to you was real.
It was wrong.
And we will not let that happen to another child if we can help it.”
One day these children will grow up and maybe talk about the impact of this, but we should be listening long before then.
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