A Girl Cannot Say “Yes” for Another Girl

Photo by Mike Fallarme

Every Child Deserves the Right to Set Her Own Boundaries

As parents and guardians, we must teach our children — especially our daughters — a truth that’s simple but often misunderstood:

No girl can give consent, access, or agreement on behalf of another girl.
Not her sister.
Not her friend.
Not a teammate.
Not even her twin.

Each girl is her own person.
Each girl gets to decide what makes her comfortable, safe, and whole.

🚫 Why This Matters

Sometimes, children are pressured to act as go-betweens:

• “She’s okay with it. I promise.”

• “She doesn’t mind. I asked her for you.”

• “Come on, she’s just shy — she told me she likes you.”

But this is a setup. It teaches kids — especially girls — to override boundaries, speak for others, and minimize the power of no. That’s not friendship. That’s conditioning.

🧠 Teach Your Daughter:

• “Your friends are allowed to have different boundaries than you.”

• “You are never responsible for convincing someone to say yes.”

• “Respecting a girl means asking her, and honoring her answer — even if it’s no.”

• “You are allowed to say no for yourself. And you are never allowed to erase someone else’s no.”

💬 For Parents to Say:

• “If someone wants an answer from your friend, they need to ask her directly.”

• “You are not the bridge for someone else’s comfort.”

• “We don’t speak for others when it comes to their bodies, time, or personal space.”

✨ The Bigger Lesson

This isn’t just about dating or friendship — it’s about consent, safety, and identity.
When girls learn early that every voice matters, they grow into women who honor their instincts, trust their boundaries, and respect the choices of others.

Let’s raise daughters who never feel obligated to be the translator of someone else’s silence.
Let’s raise sons who never expect someone else to do the asking for them.
Let’s raise children who believe that yes must come freely, clearly, and directly — from the person it belongs to.