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Protecting Children Who Communicate in Unique Ways

Some children speak in waves—fast, bright, tumbling words that feel like music.Some speak softly, or not at all, unless they feel safe.Some sp

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Some children speak in waves—fast, bright, tumbling words that feel like music.

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Some speak softly, or not at all, unless they feel safe.
Some speak in another language from most people in their region, some speak through sign language, or with a strong accent.
Some tell long, winding stories that only make sense once you know the rhythm of their mind.
Some answer quickly. Some answer late. Some don’t answer on command.

And all of them deserve to be safe.


Why They Might Be Targeted

  1. Predators Count on Them Being Misunderstood
    Children whose voices are ignored or misunderstood can be painted as “confused,” “not credible,” or “hard to follow.” Abusers see this as a shield for themselves.

  2. Bias and Prejudice
    Strong accents, another language, or communication differences can make adults impatient or dismissive—conditions predators exploit to silence a child.

  3. Overwriting Their Words
    Sometimes well-meaning adults “translate” for a child instead of letting them finish. This gives predators cover to say, “That’s not what they meant.”

  4. Shyness as a Weapon
    A child who is shy or doesn’t speak on command can be labeled “uncooperative” or “closed off.” Abusers take advantage, believing they can act without the child telling.


How to Protect Children Who Communicate Differently

  1. Validate Every Communication Style
    Let children know their voice—whether spoken, signed, drawn, typed, or expressed in gestures—matters.
    Example: “You don’t have to say it out loud for me to hear you.”

  2. Learn Their Communication Rhythm
    Give them space to finish their thoughts. Avoid interrupting or rushing. This teaches them that their style is respected.

  3. Teach Clear Safety Phrases or Signals
    Create a safety code that works in their style—like a sign, a hand gesture, a specific word in their native language, or even a safe emoji for text messages.

  4. Insist on Trusted Interpreters
    If your child uses sign language or another spoken language, ensure interpreters are vetted, safe, and never alone with the child outside their role.

  5. Prepare Adults Around Them
    Teachers, coaches, and relatives should know:

    • Never talk over the child.

    • Always give time for them to respond.

    • Take every version of their story seriously.


Every Voice Counts

A child’s voice is not measured by volume, speed, or grammar.
It’s measured by truth, by meaning, by the right to be heard without correction or control.

When we listen closely to children who communicate in unique ways, we don’t just keep them safer—we tell them that their voice is not a problem to fix, but a gift to protect.