We don’t prepare girls by protecting them from the truth. We prepare them by giving them the truth—gently, honestly, and before someone else twists i
We don’t prepare girls by protecting them from the truth.
We prepare them by giving them the truth—gently, honestly, and before someone else twists it into harm.
🧠 What Is Triangulation?
Triangulation is a manipulation tactic where an abuser creates confusion, jealousy, or competition by bringing in a third person to control, isolate, or punish the target.
It might look like:
A boy comparing two girls to get attention.
Someone saying “everyone agrees you’re the problem” to silence her.
A group chat where she’s being “discussed” but not included.
A friend turning cold after someone else whispered half-truths in their ear.
In each case, the goal is the same: Control her by destabilizing her relationships.
🧨 Why It Works So Well on Girls
Because girls are raised to believe:
That other girls are competition.
That being chosen by a boy gives you value.
That kindness means staying silent when someone hurts you.
That being alone means you did something wrong.
And abusers?
They know this.
They count on it.
They weaponize our place in a misogynistic, sexist society—one where even young girls are taught to doubt each other, and to believe boys, even when the truth is standing right in front of them.
💔 The Hard Truth: Girls Join In Sometimes
Sometimes, a girl is used in the triangulation before she ever understands what’s happening.
Sometimes she joins in.
Sometimes she turns on the other girl.
Sometimes she is the one trying to “win” his attention—because no one ever told her the game is rigged from the start.
This isn’t about blame. It’s about reality.
It’s about growing up in a world that teaches girls that their worth lives in someone else’s gaze.
It’s about predators and manipulators who know exactly how to exploit that.
🌱 But Here’s Why We Still Talk About It
Even if she rolls her eyes.
Even if she says, “That’s not me.”
Even if she isn’t ready to believe just how dark things can get.
The conversation still matters.
Because one day—she might remember it.
When a friend starts acting distant for no reason.
When a boy tries to “keep her a secret” while praising another girl in public.
When she’s told she’s being dramatic, even though her gut is screaming.
She’ll remember.
And that memory will whisper,
“You were right to question this. You were never crazy. You were never alone.”
At RosasChildren.com, we teach what the world hopes they never learn.
Because our girls deserve to be prepared, not picked apart.
They deserve to be protected, not played.
They deserve to be centered, not sacrificed.
And if we have to be the ones to say the hard things with love in our eyes—we will.