Friendships and relationships can be full of ups and downs. Sometimes, someone may say they’ve changed after hurting you. But real change is more th
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Friendships and relationships can be full of ups and downs. Sometimes, someone may say they’ve changed after hurting you. But real change is more than words—it’s shown in what they do. Girls and boys deserve to learn how to tell the difference.
1. Consistency Over Time
A friend who has changed doesn’t just act nice for a little while. They show kindness and respect again and again, over time.
2. Actions Match Words
It’s not enough to say “I’m sorry” or “I’ll do better.” Ask: Do their actions line up with what they promised?
3. Respect for Boundaries
A true friend listens when you say “no.” They don’t pressure you into doing things that make you uncomfortable or unsafe.
4. Taking Responsibility
Someone who has really changed admits when they were wrong. They don’t make excuses or blame others. They say sorry and work to do better.
5. Safer and More Comfortable to Be Around
You should feel at peace around a changed friend. If you’re still walking on eggshells or feeling uneasy, that’s a sign they may not have really changed.
6. Supportive Choices
Friends who are serious about changing often get help—from trusted adults, counselors, or mentors. They choose healthier ways to handle their feelings.
7. Gifts Don’t Replace Growth
A changed friend doesn’t try to “buy” back trust with gifts or grand gestures. True change shows up in everyday respect, honesty, and care.
🌱 Friendships and relationships should make you feel safe, respected, and valued. Real change shows up in actions, not just words.