Written for those who are finally ready to choose a side. Some communities are more forgiving than others. In many oppressed communities, we’ve lear
Written for those who are finally ready to choose a side.
Some communities are more forgiving than others.
In many oppressed communities, we’ve learned to survive by offering grace.
We’ve witnessed loved ones survive prison, poverty, addiction, and loss.
We’ve walked beside people as they turned their lives around.
And in faith communities, we’re taught to forgive seventy times seven.
To believe that “everybody deserves a second chance.”
But when it comes to men who sexually abuse children—we must understand:
We are not talking about a bad moment.
We are talking about a dangerous pattern.
📌 The Truth We Must Face:
Most men who sexually violate children don’t stop.
Not on their own. Not with guilt. Not with age.
They stop when they are stopped.
And even then, they start again if they’re given the opportunity.
They groom entire families.
They groom schools, teams, choirs, and congregations.
They hide behind titles like uncle, cousin, pastor, coach, or stepfather.
They manipulate victims and protectors with charm, tears, and guilt trips.
And yes—some are women. Some are teens. Some are relatives.
But the reality remains:
Child molesters are often persistent, calculated, and driven.
They plan. They wait. They repeat.
🎯 And What Happens to the Child?
We get caught up in the “rehabilitation” of the predator.
But what about the child?
Lifelong PTSD
Disabling chronic illness from stress and inflammation
Eating disorders, substance use, dissociation
Difficulty with intimacy, parenting, faith, trust
Shame that clings for decades
Lost time
A broken sense of self
We act like the damage stops after the crime.
But that child grows up.
And they carry that trauma into classrooms, marriages, careers, therapy offices, and hospital beds.
🔥 We Are Losing Generations Trying to Forgive Predators Into Kindness.
Some people should not be around children.
Not now.
Not later.
Not ever.
And it is not unloving to say that.
It is unloving to know what they’ve done—and say nothing.
It is unloving to ask a child to smile and hug their rapist.
It is unloving to allow someone near a school, a playground, a home—when you know they’ve already crossed that line.
✊🏾 You Must Choose a Side.
There is no neutral ground here.
Either you:
Protect the child
Or protect the predator
Either you:
Interrupt the cycle
Or become part of it
This is not about vengeance.
This is not about bitterness.
This is not about “cancel culture.”
This is about saving lives.
Protecting innocence.
And preserving the future of children who still have a right to grow up unviolated.
Because when we refuse to speak the truth, the predators win.
And the children suffer in silence—sometimes for the rest of their lives.
✨ If You’ve Been Silent:
You’re not too late.
You’re not too far gone.
But you do have to make a choice.
Will you protect the reputation of a predator?
Or will you protect a child’s future?
📍 Written with courage and clarity by Tonya GJ Prince
✍🏽 For RosasChildren.com
Because children need safe adults—not silent ones.