It Shouldn’t Matter Who Harmed Them—It Matters That They Were Harmed

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When someone is arrested for hurting a child, you’d think we’d stop everything. You’d think we’d lower our voices, open our hearts, and ask:
“What do the children need now?”
“Are they safe?”
“How can we help them heal?”

But that’s not what happens.

Instead, adults treat it like a team sport.

“Was he a Democrat?”
“Was she a drag queen?”
“Was he a Catholic priest?”
“Was she a conservative Christian?”
“Was he a cop?”
“Was she trans?”
“Was he Black?”
“Was she white?”

And suddenly, the conversation becomes about the harm doer’s identity—not the child’s pain.

🧒🏾 Children Are Not Collateral

When adults shift the focus toward defending or attacking political groups, religious affiliations, or professions—the child disappears.

This kind of behavior sends a message loud and clear:

“We care more about our team winning than we do about protecting children.”

No matter who harmed them.
No matter where they were harmed.
No child should have to fight for the spotlight just to be believed.

🧍🏽‍♀️ Center the Right People

Here’s who we need to center:

• The children who were harmed.

• The children who were disbelieved.

• The children who were almost hurt and now feel terrified.

• The children who never got to grow up because adults didn’t believe it could happen in their community.

When you read about someone being arrested for harming a child, try this:

• Don’t ask, “What group were they part of?”

• Ask, “Are there more children in danger?”

• Don’t ask, “Was it a setup?”

• Ask, “What support do the child and their family need?”

• Don’t say, “That can’t be true—he’s a good man.”

• Say, “I believe children deserve protection, every time.”

🙏🏾 What It Means to Be On the Side of the Children

Being on the side of children means:

• Grieving first and foremost for the children who were harmed.

• Thanking God (or goodness, or justice) that a child might now be safe.

• Refusing to make any abuse about your politics, your bias, or your comfort.

• Protecting children even if it means your “favorite” leader, teacher, or performer is exposed.

🕯 A Prayer We Owe Every Child

May we be brave enough to face the truth,
Loving enough to protect the vulnerable,
And honest enough to stop defending the indefensible.

💬 Let’s Start Saying…

• “Thank God that child is safe now.”

• “What support systems are in place for that family?”

• “Let’s grieve for the years that child will never get back.”

• “How can I be part of a world where children are sacred—not silenced?”

Let the courtroom handle the details.
Let the news tell the headlines.
But you and I—we protect children. That’s our lane. That’s our vow.

Because at RosasChildren, we do not turn child safety into a debate.
We build sanctuary, we center truth, and we remember:

No child’s pain should ever be overshadowed by a grown-up’s reputation.