Hey fellow Parents and Caregivers,Let’s talk about something real. Something that feels like a little thing—but can mess with impact confidence, bound
Hey fellow Parents and Caregivers,
Let’s talk about something real. Something that feels like a little thing—but can mess with impact confidence, boundaries, and even safety.
They’re called “fish hook questions.”
And they’re not what they seem.
🎣 What Are Fish Hook Questions?
Fish hook questions are the kinds of questions or dares that look like someone is just curious or joking around.
But what they’re really doing is testing you.
They’re trying to see if:
You’ll do what they say.
You’ll say something “safe” to them.
You’ll prove you’re not “against” a certain group, person, or idea.
It’s not really about getting to know you.
It’s about seeing how far they can pull you in—like bait on a hook.
🚩 What Do These Questions Look Like?
“Would you ever date someone like me?”
(Even though they just met you five minutes ago.)“So you don’t have a problem with [insert group]… right?”
“Would you kiss your friend to prove you’re chill and open-minded?”
“You’re not like other stuck-up girls, are you?”
“Don’t be rude—hug him!”
“Come on, just try it. You’re not a bigot, are you?”
At first, it might seem like no big deal.
But slowly, the pressure builds.
You might start thinking:
If I say no, will they call me mean?
Will they say I’m a hater?
Will I get left out?
💔 What Happens If You Don’t “Pass” the Test?
Sometimes, if you don’t answer the way they want you to…
They laugh.
They pressure you more.
They call you names.
They say you’re “not open enough.”
They shun or bully you.
That’s not love. That’s not inclusion. That’s not friendship.
That’s coercion.
That’s someone trying to shrink your voice and blur your boundaries so they can feel powerful.
🌹 Real Talk: Your Boundaries Are Not a Problem
The more open a girl’s or boy’s boundaries are to any and all people, the more some of these “fishers” say they approve of her.
But that’s not respect. That’s manipulation.
You do not owe anyone your silence, your agreement, your body, or your approval.
If someone needs you to prove yourself by crossing your own limits—they are the problem. Not you.
🛡️ You Have the Right To Say:
“I’m allowed to have my own values.”
“I don’t owe you an answer.”
“That question feels off.”
“I’m not doing that. That’s not me.”
“No is a complete sentence.”
You don’t have to prove you’re a “good person” by making yourself uncomfortable.
You don’t have to prove you’re kind by being silent.
And you don’t have to accept dares, kisses, questions, or contact just to stay in someone’s circle.
🌼 You Are Enough
You are not here to make other people feel powerful by shrinking yourself.
At RosasChildren.com, we want you to know: You are worthy. You are powerful.
And you deserve friends who respect your “no” as much as they cheer for your “yes.”
Let’s keep learning. Keep building. Keep protecting the beautiful boundaries that keep your heart, body, and spirit safe.
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