If you protect girls, or are raising one—you’ve likely felt it. Something is shifting. And in the name of “inclusion” and “equality,” girls are once
If you protect girls, or are raising one—you’ve likely felt it.
Something is shifting.
And in the name of “inclusion” and “equality,” girls are once again being asked to adjust, to shrink, to sacrifice.
You’re not imagining it.
And you’re not wrong for speaking up.
Here’s what many don’t understand—and why your voice matters.
🧠 Misunderstanding Equality Hurts Girls
There’s a widespread belief that equality means treating everyone the same—no matter what.
But that’s not how fairness works.
And that’s certainly not how life works.
True equality means honoring our differences and creating space where everyone can thrive.
When people insist on sameness, girls are often the ones who lose—because they are the ones expected to adapt.
🩶 This Isn’t New. It’s Just More Visible.
Girls have long been told:
“Don’t be difficult.”
“Be nice.”
“Try harder.”
“You’re overreacting.”
And now they’re being told to give up podiums, scholarships, and fair play—to protect someone else’s feelings.
Even if it means silencing their own.
🏃🏾♀️ What Girls Are Losing:
Because of this twisted idea of equality, girls are losing:
Spots on teams they trained for
Wins they earned with discipline
Scholarships they worked toward for years
Safe, sacred space to grow into confident women
Worse, they are losing the belief that their voices matter in the face of injustice.
That is not equality.
That is sacrifice without consent.
🛑 Misusing “Equality” Sounds Like This:
“It’s only a few cases.”
“She’s just mad she didn’t win.”
“You’re being exclusive.”
“She’ll be fine.”
But here’s the truth:
Minimizing girls’ concerns is not progressive. It’s patriarchal.
Shaming them into silence isn’t kindness. It’s control.
💬 As a Parent or Protector, You Can Say:
“My daughter deserves to compete on a level playing field.”
“She matters. Her voice matters.”
“We can include others without erasing girls.”
“True fairness must include girls—not expect them to disappear.”
💛 You’re Not Wrong. You’re Brave.
If this moment has you feeling alone, confused, or frustrated—know this:
You’re not hateful.
You’re not behind the times.
You’re a protector.
And that is sacred work.
Girls are counting on us to speak where they are silenced.
To see what others refuse to acknowledge.
To hold the line so they can walk forward, tall and unashamed.
👣 What You Can Do:
💬 Talk with your daughters about fairness and boundaries.
🏫 Ask schools how they define sex-based sports and opportunities.
🧾 Learn how local laws affect girls’ rights.
📢 Advocate without shame—especially when the world pressures you to stay silent.
💡 Remember:
Inclusion must never require erasure.
Equality must never mean pretending girls don’t matter.
We love them too much for that.