🎯 Why Don’t People See It’s Unfair?

10 Reasons People Refuse to Acknowledge That Only Girls Are Being Singled Out

It’s happening in plain sight—but too many look away. Here’s why.

For years, girls have fought for the right to compete, to be safe, to be seen.

Now, as new rules and ideologies reshape sports, restrooms, shelters, and spaces—girls are being asked to move over. Again.

And yet, when we say, “This is not fair,” people don’t want to hear it.

Here’s why they won’t see it—and why we must keep telling the truth.

1. 🏃🏽‍♀️ Girls’ sports have never been taken seriously.

Let’s start here.

Too many people still believe girls’ sports don’t matter. That they’re soft, recreational, or less competitive. So when girls lose opportunities, the public shrugs.

But sports change lives. They build identity, scholarship pathways, self-esteem, and community.

Girls shouldn’t have to prove their pain is valid. Or that their spaces matter.

2. 🤐 Girls are expected to stay silent.

From the time they’re small, girls are taught:

• Don’t rock the boat.

• Don’t be rude.

• Don’t speak up too loudly.

• Don’t make people uncomfortable.

So when girls (and women) raise the alarm about unfairness, they’re called:

• “Bigots”

• “Exclusionary”

• “Difficult”

But the truth is:

Silencing girls isn’t progressive. It’s patriarchal.

3. ⚖️ People confuse inclusion with fairness.

Inclusion is important. But inclusion that overrides boundaries and biological realities isn’t inclusion—it’s erasure.

Some believe everyone should be treated exactly the same.
But girls’ bodies are not the same. Their needs aren’t the same. And fairness means making space for those differences.

4. 💸 There’s political and financial pressure to comply.

Organizations, schools, brands, and sports leagues often follow policies out of:

• Fear of lawsuits

• Desire for funding

• Pressure from activists

That pressure trickles down to the girls on the field who are told to “just deal with it.”

But the cost of silence is borne by them.

5. 🫣 No one wants to be the “bad guy.”

Speaking out takes courage. Many good people stay silent because:

• They’re afraid of backlash

• They don’t want to seem unkind

• They don’t want to lose their jobs

But here’s the truth:

When fairness becomes controversial, silence is not neutral. It’s compliance.

6. 🧠 People dismiss what they don’t understand.

Many don’t understand the intensity of training, discipline, and dreams girls bring to sports.
They’ve never:

• Watched a girl cry after being edged off the podium

• Witnessed a team lose a title they trained for all year

• Seen a girl fear using a locker room

So they minimize it.

7. 🤯 People say, “It’s not that many cases.”

But it only takes one male-bodied athlete to change the entire dynamic of a girls’ sport.
It only takes one to:

• Beat records

• Take scholarships

• Shift who wins and who goes home empty-handed

This isn’t about volume. It’s about impact.
And girls feel it—even if adults pretend not to.

8. 🙄 Society is used to girls adjusting.

Girls have always been expected to adapt:

• To play second

• To be accommodating

• To take the leftovers

This situation is no different. Society is once again saying, “Girls will figure it out.”

But we’re here to say: No. Not this time.

9. 🗣️ The loudest voices dominate the narrative.

Social media, institutions, and news outlets often platform those who shame, censor, or silence anyone who says:

“This isn’t fair to girls.”

This distortion of the narrative makes everyday people afraid to speak the truth—so the lie spreads.

But those who live the consequences know better.

10. 🩵 It’s easier to believe girls are okay than to face the truth.

It’s easier to say:

• “It’s not that bad.”

• “They’re being dramatic.”

• “They should just be kind.”

Because once you admit it’s unfair, you’re accountable to change it.

But girls shouldn’t be the ones who always have to sacrifice.
Not for the comfort of adults. Not for the image of inclusion. Not again.

🧭 For Rosaschildren.com Readers:

You’ve stood with girls before—in courtrooms, shelters, classrooms, and family meetings.

This is no different.

Girls are once again being told to be silent, to disappear, to accept what’s given to them.

We don’t accept that.
We raise our voices.
We defend their space.
We remember: we are the ones they’ve always counted on.