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šŸ›‘ Boundaries Are Not Accusations—They’re Standards That Protect Children

At RosasChildren, we hear this misunderstanding all the time:ā€œAre you saying I’m a bad person?ā€ā€œYou must think I would do something wrong.ā€ā€œDon’

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At RosasChildren, we hear this misunderstanding all the time:

ā€œAre you saying I’m a bad person?ā€
ā€œYou must think I would do something wrong.ā€
ā€œDon’t you trust me?ā€

Let’s be clear:

Setting child safety boundaries is not an accusation.
It’s a standard of care.


āš–ļø People Often Confuse Standards with Suspicion

They think:

ā€œIf you have rules around me being alone with children, you must believe I’m dangerous.ā€

But the truth is:

We set boundaries to protect children—not because we assume harm, but because we refuse to leave harm up to chance.


šŸ” Standards Keep Children Safe—Not Gut Feelings

Many predators are charming. Helpful. Engaged.
They’re rarely the ones who ā€œseem suspicious.ā€

That’s why we don’t rely on how someone makes us feel.

We rely on:

  • Oversight

  • Structure

  • Vetted, clear protocols

  • Accountability for everyone

Because no one—no matter how trusted—is exempt from causing harm.


🧱 We Build the Fence Before the Cliff

Boundaries aren’t there because we expect people to fall.
They’re there to make sure children don’t get pushed off the edge.

If someone is safe, they should welcome safeguards.
They should say, ā€œYes, this makes sense. Kids deserve that.ā€

If they resist or push back… that’s not proof of innocence.
That’s a reason to pause.


🌱 Creating a Culture of Protection

We’re not here to make people feel accused.
We’re here to make sure every single child is protected, no matter who walks through the door.

We don’t wait for something to go wrong.
We set the standard so nothing can go wrong.

That’s what love looks like. That’s what leadership looks like.
That’s what real protection looks like.