There are few heartbreaks more jarring than this:Realizing that someone you admireâmaybe even love deeplyâis cheering for the people who endange
There are few heartbreaks more jarring than this:
Realizing that someone you admireâmaybe even love deeplyâis cheering for the people who endanger children.
It can feel like the ground shifts under your feet.
Because these aren’t strangers.
These are:
Beloved family members
Respected colleagues
Trusted friends
Elders weâve leaned on for wisdom
And when they take the side of those seeking unfettered access to children in vulnerable spaces, something breaks wide open.
đ§ What That Feels Like
A gut punch to your intuition
A quiet panic: âIf they canât see the danger⌠am I alone in this?â
A spiritual betrayal: âHow can someone who taught me to protect children ignore the obvious?â
A frustrating disorientation: âAre they willfully blindâor just afraid to speak?â
Itâs not just disagreement. Itâs grief.
You thought they were safe. You thought they understood.
You thought they were on the side of the vulnerable.
â ď¸ The Danger of Misplaced Loyalty
Too often, people confuse:
Advocacy with âhateâ
Boundaries with âjudgmentâ
Protection with âparanoiaâ
They get louder about being inclusive of adults than being protective of children.
And the predators?
They count on exactly this.
On confusion.
On silence.
On respected adults saying, âItâs not that serious.â
đŹ The Loneliness of Seeing Clearly
When youâre the one who sees the danger:
You may be labeled âextremeâ
Your warnings may be brushed off as âoverreactingâ
You may be pressured to stay silent to avoid family conflict or social backlash
But clarity is not cruelty.
And truthâno matter how unpopularâis a sacred act of love.
đĄď¸ Youâre Not Alone
If you feel:
Dismissed by people who should know better
Heartbroken by the silence of âalliesâ
Exposed for saying what everyone is thinking…
Know this:
Your courage is not the problem.
Their silence is.
đŁď¸ What You Can Say:
âChildrenâs safety should never be a controversial stance.â
âIf someone has an issue with safety boundaries, thatâs a red flag.â
âWe protect kids first. Everything else comes second.â
âLove does not mean abandoning discernment.â
đĽ The Truth Still Matters
Even when itâs uncomfortable.
Even when it costs you closeness.
Even when it reveals that not everyone you love shares your convictions.
Truth still matters.
Children still matter.
And your voice might be the one that breaks the silence wide open.